In the previous post, i enlisted the don'ts of polite conversation. here are some do's. the british often refer to it as 'small talk'- it revolves more around your efficacy at making conversation than the content of the conversation. aim at conjuring a pleasant bonhomie of enriching conversation and a 'joie de vivre' camarilla:
1. weather: it can often be a burdensome banality, a prosaic yawn-inducing topic. however, if articulated well, it's a great conversation starter. marvelling at the balmy weather or expressing concern at the plummeting temperatures may give a robust kick-start to a conversation!
2. occupation & hobbies: by this i do not mean for you to begin a self-absorbed gasconade about your own occupation and hobbies. enquire the other person about theirs, show interest; ask more about the latest developments in their field of expertise, how they are contributing into it, etc. go by this bill nye quote, "everyone you will ever meet knows something you don't." be curious and inquisitive, you might end up learning something new.
3. family/friends: enquire about their children, friends, etc.
4. the last time you met them: this is a cardinal nicety according to the communication punctilio. if you have met this person before, take cues from the information they imparted the last time over. for instance, if they had told you about their son's admission into school the last time, ask them how he is doing at school. look concerned and interested. if they had told you about their father's ill health, enquire them after his health this time.
5. compliments: panegyrising your acquaintance now and then would make your bond stronger. build happy camaraderie and goodwill. deliver bona fide, genuine compliments. do not be an oily, grovelling sycophant or an insouciant flatterer. your compliments should be sincere. also, once is enough. do not worship them.
6. sprinkle humour: an occasional incorporation of a good joke is indispensable for a memorable conversation. incorporate some 'shavian' witty banter and light badinage. be good at genial repartee. at the same time, make sure that your jokes are not offensive, v****r or, well, poor. (📸: pa)