2 minutes ago
Two years ago i was scared out of my mind... i'd lived on my own before, paid my bills, and done life... but this time it was different. this time around i had two kids under tow, without the safety and comfort of a man. their whole world and well-being fell on my shoulders - and it still does.
after my ex and i broke up, i remember him saying to me, 'i made you - don't ever forget that' (yes - he actually said that!) and something about that statement lit a fire inside of me. no man has ever or will ever "make me". i am 100% responsible for my own happiness, well-being, and success (and failures) in life. so i put on my big girl pants and stepped the f up.
but it's funny how things work out. i landed an amazing job, surrounded by a lot of wonderful people. i found a cute little apartment that was perfect for us. we were taken care of and given exactly what we needed at that time to get us thru. i did all of the scary, big and little adults things that i wasn't used to doing on my own. i started kicking-ass at life. i still am. and that's all because of me.
my drive to do better and be better, to be successful, to handle the role of single mom and everything that it entails, to model self-love and build resiliency in the face of adversity - that's on me. that's on you.
ladies - please remember - no man will ever make you or define who you are. you are the ceo of your own life.