Holding grudges only holds you back
it's totally ok to catch feelings, get b**t hurt and feel hard done by or wronged by others
especially when they have f****d up, been unethical, abusive, disrespectful or harmful towards us
what's not so healthy or useful is holding onto the b**t hurtedness
if we truly are all interconnected and all is one then when we carry hatred and ill will toward someone we are essentially hating on ourselves
what we see in others is a reflection of us
everything that exists in others exists in us
when we hate on and are unable to accept others based on their behaviours, world views - or whatever reason we choose to hold onto as negative, wrong or unacceptable - we are basically saying "what i see in them is a part of myself that i don't accept". any part of ourselves that we can't accept is a part that will remain unintegrated - until we can reconcile and own it as a part of us.
this is what is known as giving our power away
when we're still adversely affected by some s**t somebody did some time ago. they have power over us. the power to affect our state. and not only affect it. but affect it negatively
we are disempowered wherever there are parts of us that are unreconciled
acceptance of all aspects therefore is the key to both empowered and full integration.
acceptance can and often does include forgiveness and taking full responsibility
when we ask ourselves 'where in life have i too done similar actions and embodied the s****y traits displayed by the person in holding a grudge toward'? and are honest with our answers
we can see that we too are perfectly imperfect. and we can reconcile the disowned parts within us. allowing us to let go of the angst, resentment, spite and bitterness that comes with holding a grudge
freeing us up to be able to see the blessings, lessons and opportunities that this person's behaviours have given us
where in your life are you either knowingly or unknowingly holding a grudge?
who and what can you forgive, accept and take full responsibility for so you can begin taking your power back?
tag someone who needs to see this (it could even be someone you've held a grudge against)