1 hour ago
something been on my mind for a while i want to touch on.
i come from a country where expectations for female beauty are extremely high. but not just that: the beauty "standard" is very tightly woven with a worth of a woman. i mentioned this once before, a while back, but such thing as an understanding that "husband will leave because her appearance changed after giving birth" is a common place. the thinner the woman is, the more beautiful she is considered to be. but what's more unsettling is that not only men think this is a perfectly acceptable position, women support that too.
that's sad. very sad.
then i live in a country of a polar opposite - yes, plastic surgery is at bloom in hollywood, but hollywood is not all of the america. but here there is another issue that thin women run into - they are criticized for "not being "real women"", for not being healthy, etc.
aren't we better then that? can't we just accept that every body is beautiful in its own shape? a person with a larger frame is not necessarily unhealthy. not at all. i know plenty of women who are athletic and their health is in full bloom, but who just will never be a fragile little pixie. and then i know the other ones who appear to be in perfect health, model-like shape ( although i hate that term - models do come in all shapes and sizes and we have made a big progress in the recent years ) and who struggle every day.
i look at my girls and deep between the layers of my heart there is fear for them. i want them to continue to think they are just as beautiful 10,20,40 years from today as they think of themselves now when they dress up as princesses.
i hope that we - our generation of mothers and parents - can teach our little now, but future men to value a lot more then the outer shell and/or ability to clean,cook,serve. in no way am i proposing that caring for the body must stop - no. the body is sacred and caring for it is a sacred responsibility every one has. but i strive, and hope we all will, to shift the perception of beauty from a barbie-doll to a real, authentic, beautiful creations each and everyone one of us is.
creations that come in all shapes, 👇🏻