Sleepy morning cuddles are totally worth the early wake up call... i haven't had much time for writing lately but i wanted to touch on a subject that i know a few of you are struggling with.
recently my babies have started to have sleepovers at their daddy's house. i know how important this time with their daddy is but a selfish wee part of me hates that they have to leave me!! don't get me wrong, watching the boys count down the days to their wee sleepovers is brilliant, they get so excited and even ethan automatically knows when the day comes round to go see his daddy! its great for them to have something to look forward to, and to be totally honest as hard as it is to be without them, by the time the friday evening rolls round i am nudging them out the door so i can get my head showered! (cue the usual dose of mummy guilt that follows the minute they leave!) i am loving being able to make plans for my child free time, even just being able to sleep in late, or jump in the car at 10pm and skite in to the shop, or pull on my trainers and go for a run on a whim... probably sounds like these are silly little things but they are usually impossible without roping in a babysitter!
i genuinely think i am a better parent when we have had some time apart. i have more patience and we all really appreciate each other when we are together. i also think the boys behaviour is better too!
but do you want to know the best thing about the kids going away...getting them home again.
the boys absolutely love getting to spend time with their daddy, they are always full of excited wee stories when they get home. i love catching up with them and cuddling and kissing the life clean outa them!! we are still getting used to the new routine but so far so good. i think the main thing is getting the balance right, and for us, every other weekend is perfect. i hope this helps some of you, its not easy implementing all these changes, and it won't happen overnight! but once you work out all the details and settle in to an arrangement it really does benefit everyone in the long run.
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