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The festive season is in full swing and i find myself needing to take deep breathes and spend more nights in, preferably snuggled up to a popping and crackling toasty fire with my favorites, a cup of hot cocoa or a slice of brie 😁👌🏻. as an introvert and hsp (a highly sensitive person) this part of the calendar year can be overwhelming and mentally exhausting. the loud jolly music, bright lights, extra traffic and bustling crowds, that represent the energy of this season, add up quickly for me. i have safe spaces and often retreat to them to regroup and reset, but over the last few years i've begun to grow and challenge myself to be bolder with my self-care. i've started explaining my needs and struggles to my loved ones and asking them to consider and, potentially, honor them✨
most people do not understand what it's like to be an introvert or hsp and therefore can often misinterpret self-care as "selfishness" or even rejection. it's neither. it's important to remember that we have all been created, raised and developed differently. just as i'm more sensitive and easily overwhelmed, others can need and crave excitement and activity—the exact opposite! all of our (healthy) needs and natural desires should be valued and respected. this is not always easy, especially when those who are engaging are polar opposites—often the root cause of most family strife over the holidays.
my encouragement to you this evening is to take a step back. observe your friends, family and loved ones. what are their needs? can you begin to honor those needs and make room for them? what are your true needs? can you express them freely and confidently (w/out guilt)? marinate on these thoughts for a bit 💗
healthy relationships make space for needs. give it a try this holiday season and see what challenges, awareness and healing it brings for you. i'll be right there doing it with you 😌🌲