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If you were to see me in a social situation, you’d think that I’m confident. And in most social settings, I am. Now. I love people, love hearing their stories, so most of the time I trust my ability to relate and connect. But this wasn’t always the case. These were skills I had to re-learn. During adolescence, probably as a result of going to a new school where I felt completely out of my depth, I lost my natural childhood confidence. Approaching new people felt very hard. I would often spend break times at school pretending to be busy doing work, to avoid the shame of having to go up to a group and ask whether I could sit with them and face the potential humiliation of being told no. It was a very lonely time. This is when I remember the pretending began. I pretended to be shy. I’m a natural introvert, certainly. But at the same time, being shy was very convenient for me. At many times, it was a means to stay quiet, avoid risks, and maintain the illusion that I was better than I really was.  And I used this strategy well into my early adult years, in fact I can still find myself dropping into this idea about myself - that I am shy - to avoid social risks and maintain an air of superiority.  Especially when I’m feeling social anxiety, feeling tired or vulnerable.  Yet rather than pretending, I now offer myself some compassion – tell myself it’s totally okay to feel this way, everyone feels this way from time to time when faced with a room full of strangers and that I’m going to go gently with myself, take the pressure off myself and simply be curious about what will unfold, who I will meet, how I will feel.  Can you relate?  With great warmth Heather Join our community and find out more about the launch of our online Compassionate Self-Awareness Program to Know Yourself, Care for Yourself and Be Yourself, by leaving your details at consciouswoman.com #consciouswoman #compassionateselfawareness #selfcompassion #selfawareness #inspiringwomen #compassion #acceptance #selfcare #selflove #awareness #consciousness #beourselves #authenticity #knowyourself #careforyourself #beyourself #Vironika Tugaleva
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If you were to see me in a social situation, you’d think that i’m confident. and in most social settings, i am. now. i love people, love hearing their stories, so most of the time i trust my ability to relate and connect. but this wasn’t always the case. these were skills i had to re-learn. during adolescence, probably as a result of going to a new school where i felt completely out of my depth, i lost my natural childhood confidence. approaching new people felt very hard. i would often spend break times at school pretending to be busy doing work, to avoid the shame of having to go up to a group and ask whether i could sit with them and face the potential humiliation of being told no. it was a very lonely time. this is when i remember the pretending began. i pretended to be shy. i’m a natural introvert, certainly. but at the same time, being shy was very convenient for me. at many times, it was a means to stay quiet, avoid risks, and maintain the illusion that i was better than i really was. and i used this strategy well into my early adult years, in fact i can still find myself dropping into this idea about myself - that i am shy - to avoid social risks and maintain an air of superiority. especially when i’m feeling social anxiety, feeling tired or vulnerable. yet rather than pretending, i now offer myself some compassion – tell myself it’s totally okay to feel this way, everyone feels this way from time to time when faced with a room full of strangers and that i’m going to go gently with myself, take the pressure off myself and simply be curious about what will unfold, who i will meet, how i will feel. can you relate? with great warmth heather join our community and find out more about the launch of our online compassionate self-awareness program to know yourself, care for yourself and be yourself, by leaving your details at consciouswoman.com #consciouswoman #compassionateselfawareness #selfcompassion #selfawareness #inspiringwomen #compassion #acceptance #selfcare #selflove #awareness #consciousness #beourselves #authenticity #knowyourself #careforyourself #beyourself #vironika tugaleva
Catching myself thinking thoughts that are counter productive to my wellness. 
reminding myself :: it's okay to be where u r, even if it's lost. •
shout outs Remembering Divine Order on days like these ..... •
[o] @sebastianbieniek
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Catching myself thinking thoughts that are counter productive to my wellness. reminding myself :: it's okay to be where u r, even if it's lost. • shout outs remembering divine order on days like these ..... • [o] @sebastianbieniek
Spending time naked is beneficial to your health. Spending time in your birthday suit helps your body breathe, helps you feel more connected to your body (as you actually can see it), and grows feelings of self-acceptance. So whenever you have the chance, take it off! (You have the chance constantly in the privacy of your home. No, showers don't count)

This picture actually depicts me! Raw, naked, and so happy! Nudity isn't as vulnerable or personal as we perceive it, and people shouldn't make such a big deal out of it. You weren't born with your clothes on, it's ok. 
It takes some time to be comfortable in your skin. EVERYONE struggles with bad days, EVERYONE has insecurities! We are human! Diversity is what makes us beautiful. Being naked is something that will truly help your self-acceptance. Being connected to your body and giving yourself the self-love and self-care you need and deserve goes long ways. Love yourself! And don't be ashamed for doing so.
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Spending time n***d is beneficial to your health. spending time in your birthday suit helps your body breathe, helps you feel more connected to your body (as you actually can see it), and grows feelings of self-acceptance. so whenever you have the chance, take it off! (you have the chance constantly in the privacy of your home. no, showers don't count) this picture actually depicts me! raw, naked, and so happy! nudity isn't as vulnerable or personal as we perceive it, and people shouldn't make such a big deal out of it. you weren't born with your clothes on, it's ok. it takes some time to be comfortable in your skin. everyone struggles with bad days, everyone has insecurities! we are human! diversity is what makes us beautiful. being n***d is something that will truly help your self-acceptance. being connected to your body and giving yourself the self-love and self-care you need and deserve goes long ways. love yourself! and don't be ashamed for doing so.
🌸Have you loved yourself today? 🌸💕
#LeafNature #LoveYourself 📷: @mafyno
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🌸have you loved yourself today? 🌸💕 #leafnature #loveyourself 📷: @mafyno
A reminder for all you sweet humans giving your all every day and thinking that you are still not doing enough! Sending you love!
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A reminder for all you sweet humans giving your all every day and thinking that you are still not doing enough! sending you love!
#Flashbackfriday #BTS of the photo shoot for the new Lavernecox.com. 
#TransIsBeautiful #selflove #selfcompassion #selfcare #love #empathy
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#flashbackfriday #bts of the photo shoot for the new lavernecox.com. #transisbeautiful #selflove #selfcompassion #selfcare #love #empathy
Selfcompassion. So necessary and sometimes so hard. Take your time and be gentle with yourself. Easy. Soft. Breathe. 
Selbst-Mitgefühl. So wichtig - und manchmal so schwer. Wenn wir das Gefühl haben nicht richtig zu sein oder uns über uns ärgern. Also. Nimm dir Zeit und sei sanft mit dir. Atme durch. Werd leicht. Hab einen tollen Tag 💕 und geniess, was auch immer du tust.
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Selfcompassion. so necessary and sometimes so hard. take your time and be gentle with yourself. easy. soft. breathe. selbst-mitgefühl. so wichtig - und manchmal so schwer. wenn wir das gefühl haben nicht richtig zu sein oder uns über uns ärgern. also. nimm dir zeit und sei sanft mit dir. atme durch. werd leicht. hab einen tollen tag 💕 und geniess, was auch immer du tust.
If you are out fighting for your wellbeing in life, you are most likely going to end up in a few messes along the way. Maybe more than a few. You are brave. Keep going. #growthmindset #daringgreatly #maninthearena #selfcompassion #positivevibes #positivemindset #happier #positivepsychology #morehappy #happiness #bebrave #courage #brave #youareyou
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If you are out fighting for your wellbeing in life, you are most likely going to end up in a few messes along the way. maybe more than a few. you are brave. keep going. #growthmindset #daringgreatly #maninthearena #selfcompassion #positivevibes #positivemindset #happier #positivepsychology #morehappy #happiness #bebrave #courage #brave #youareyou
Is your body in need of a deep stretch while your mind takes a rest? 🙋🏽 Join me today at 1.15pm at @empower_studio for a 45 minute delicious YIN class... with essential oils. Did some one just say, peace out ✌🏼
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Is your body in need of a deep stretch while your mind takes a rest? 🙋🏽 join me today at 1.15pm at @empower_studio for a 45 minute delicious yin class... with essential oils. did some one just say, peace out ✌🏼
We've jumped on board the kindness challenge started by @1n5_org and are chiming in to say that we hope you've enjoyed Day 1 and that you're all feeling the mood boosting effects of being kind to others today! 
Whether you chose to smile at a stranger, compliment someone or treat a friend to ☕️, We hope you'll share with us what you've done to spread kindness today. In spreading kindness, not only will you likely put a smile on someone's face, you're also likely to enjoy a little mood boost yourself! 
I got in on the kindness spreading challenge fun today myself! I gave away a coat-rack I was no longer using to a friend who mentioned needing one, brought a little bouquet to a co-worker to brighten her day and just left some little love notes by my little ones beds for them to find upon waking tomorrow morning. Will have more fun with the kindness challenge tomorrow and hope you will too. 💕

Let us know how you're spreading kindness today! Please share below! 🌈☀️
Repost @1n5_org
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We've jumped on board the kindness challenge started by @1n5_org and are chiming in to say that we hope you've enjoyed day 1 and that you're all feeling the mood boosting effects of being kind to others today! whether you chose to smile at a stranger, compliment someone or treat a friend to ☕️, we hope you'll share with us what you've done to spread kindness today. in spreading kindness, not only will you likely put a smile on someone's face, you're also likely to enjoy a little mood boost yourself! i got in on the kindness spreading challenge fun today myself! i gave away a coat-rack i was no longer using to a friend who mentioned needing one, brought a little bouquet to a co-worker to brighten her day and just left some little love notes by my little ones beds for them to find upon waking tomorrow morning. will have more fun with the kindness challenge tomorrow and hope you will too. 💕 let us know how you're spreading kindness today! please share below! 🌈☀️ repost @1n5_org
📍India 2011 ||Let's start raising our children to have more self-compassion instead of more self-esteem. The two are surprisingly very different. Dr. Jennifer Crocker, a self -esteem researcher says its not having high self-esteem that is the problem, it's pursuing it, which is usually based on feeling special and above-average or better than others. The best way to think about the problem of self-esteem is not whether or not you have it, but what you do to get it. The other thing is, it's pretty common, at least in American society, that in order to have high self-esteem, you have to feel special and above-average. If someone said,
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📍india 2011 ||let's start raising our children to have more self-compassion instead of more self-esteem. the two are surprisingly very different. dr. jennifer crocker, a self -esteem researcher says its not having high self-esteem that is the problem, it's pursuing it, which is usually based on feeling special and above-average or better than others. the best way to think about the problem of self-esteem is not whether or not you have it, but what you do to get it. the other thing is, it's pretty common, at least in american society, that in order to have high self-esteem, you have to feel special and above-average. if someone said, "oh, your performance was average," you would feel hurt by that, almost insulted. when we fail, self-esteem deserts us, which is precisely when we need it most. and so the problem is we're constantly comparing ourselves to others. we try to puff ourselves up. we have what's called self-enhancement bias, where we see ourselves as better in almost any culturally valued trait. so why self compassion? simple really. it's treating yourself with the same kind of kindness, care, and compassion, as you would treat those you care about—your good friends, your loved ones. self-compassion adds the humanistic component.|| #thenomadicpsychotherapist
A dose of sunlight can give you warm fuzzy feeling. Or not! Ignore it or embrace it. It's all about your mindset. If you don't care it's because you have learned not to. Disrupt  the old thought patterns that don't work for you. #motivated #inspired #wisdom #selfcare #selftalk #selfcompassion #beatanxiety #beatstress #beatdepression #stressmanagement #teenmentalhealthawareness #teens #parenting #breakup  #grief #parentingspecialneeds #enterpreneur #socialentrepreneur #startups #suntherapy #walks #australianbush #mindset #mndfulness #resilience #relaxresponse #bewell #wellness #wellbeing #naturelovers #relaxresponse
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A dose of sunlight can give you warm fuzzy feeling. or not! ignore it or embrace it. it's all about your mindset. if you don't care it's because you have learned not to. disrupt the old thought patterns that don't work for you. #motivated #inspired #wisdom #selfcare #selftalk #selfcompassion #beatanxiety #beatstress #beatdepression #stressmanagement #teenmentalhealthawareness #teens #parenting #breakup #grief #parentingspecialneeds #enterpreneur #socialentrepreneur #startups #suntherapy #walks #australianbush #mindset #mndfulness #resilience #relaxresponse #bewell #wellness #wellbeing #naturelovers #relaxresponse
Sometimes we do what we do because it’s the best we can do at the time. Not because it’s right. Not because it works best, but simply because that is all we can do, that is all we can give. It will not always be like this. There will be other times when we can do better. Give yourself a break. Keep getting up. Keep walking towards the light. You’ll get there. #thebestyoucandointhemoment #doyourbest #dontgiveuporgivein #walktowardsthelight #courage #consciousliving #qotd #inspiration #givemeabreak #selfcompassion #selflove
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Sometimes we do what we do because it’s the best we can do at the time. not because it’s right. not because it works best, but simply because that is all we can do, that is all we can give. it will not always be like this. there will be other times when we can do better. give yourself a break. keep getting up. keep walking towards the light. you’ll get there. #thebestyoucandointhemoment #doyourbest #dontgiveuporgivein #walktowardsthelight #courage #consciousliving #qotd #inspiration #givemeabreak #selfcompassion #selflove
.....And it is only then that the love of God/Universe/Consciousness can truly reach us and restore us -- not to what we were before, but to what we were always meant to be. #natureofreality #truth #truthbomb
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.....and it is only then that the love of god/universe/consciousness can truly reach us and restore us -- not to what we were before, but to what we were always meant to be. #natureofreality #truth #truthbomb
We can't #bloom all the time dear #unicorns. Take #time to go #inward.#breathe, #recharge, practice #selfcare and #selfcompassion.Take time on this #newmoon to plant seeds for the next lunar cycle. 
#writer #writersofinstagram #actress #actor #blogger #witch #mooncycles #love #fulltimeunicorn

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We can't #bloom all the time dear #unicorns. take #time to go #inward.#breathe, #recharge, practice #selfcare and #selfcompassion.take time on this #newmoon to plant seeds for the next lunar cycle. #writer #writersofinstagram #actress #actor #blogger #witch #mooncycles #love #fulltimeunicorn video by @echinopsisfreak
New moon in #Gemini... the sign of the #twins. New moon in Gemini is all about self-reflection and your mirrors. I've taken the day to do something I love doing... CLEAN and purge to welcome new and uplifting energy in my life. As I was cleaning and listening to @brenebrown a random thought came to my head... if I were to meet myself, my twin, I'd want to like myself and I'd want it to not be painful. I realized this would require a great deal of #selfcompassion... so this is what I'm manifesting this #newmoon, self compassion and clearing out thoughts of shame and ideas of
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New moon in #gemini... the sign of the #twins. new moon in gemini is all about self-reflection and your mirrors. i've taken the day to do something i love doing... clean and purge to welcome new and uplifting energy in my life. as i was cleaning and listening to @brenebrown a random thought came to my head... if i were to meet myself, my twin, i'd want to like myself and i'd want it to not be painful. i realized this would require a great deal of #selfcompassion... so this is what i'm manifesting this #newmoon, self compassion and clearing out thoughts of shame and ideas of "i can't, not good enough", etc in all the places i can possibly find. thank you #universe! 🙏🏻🌑🌕✨ #selflove #twinflame #newmoongemini #manifest #lovetoall ❤️
Besides movement, a daily dose of nature will help to keep us sane these days!  And thanks to everyone who have been moving with me!  Fridays again 4:45 to 5:45pm at Spiral Tree Yoga until June 23rd!
“In the face of the enormity of others’ suffering—and the world’s—there is more pain than we can internalize. In an effort to do so, we run the risk of empathy fatigue and burnout. It’s critical to transform empathy into compassion and compassion into action—to keep it productive”
— Andrew Zolli
#Natureheals #movementislife #compassion #selfcompassion #stopandsmellnature
#Trailrunning #yoga
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Besides movement, a daily dose of nature will help to keep us sane these days! and thanks to everyone who have been moving with me! fridays again 4:45 to 5:45pm at spiral tree yoga until june 23rd! “in the face of the enormity of others’ suffering—and the world’s—there is more pain than we can internalize. in an effort to do so, we run the risk of empathy fatigue and burnout. it’s critical to transform empathy into compassion and compassion into action—to keep it productive” — andrew zolli #natureheals #movementislife #compassion #selfcompassion #stopandsmellnature #trailrunning #yoga
Three years ago our world lost an amazingly wise and compassionately true woman. Although I did not know @drmayaangelou , her words and presence forever changed my journey on this earth. @mayaangeloufilm @supersoul #gratitude #selfcompassion #truth #poetry 💚💙💚
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Three years ago our world lost an amazingly wise and compassionately true woman. although i did not know @drmayaangelou , her words and presence forever changed my journey on this earth. @mayaangeloufilm @supersoul #gratitude #selfcompassion #truth #poetry 💚💙💚
With a concussion, taking time to rest is productive and not doing so is harmful. My therapist reminded me today that this is actually true all the time. Not resting is going to increase my anxiety, chilling is going to help me keep it under control. I'm bad at taking time out of my day to kick back though, so when I'm back to work full time, I'll be adding
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With a concussion, taking time to rest is productive and not doing so is harmful. my therapist reminded me today that this is actually true all the time. not resting is going to increase my anxiety, chilling is going to help me keep it under control. i'm bad at taking time out of my day to kick back though, so when i'm back to work full time, i'll be adding "knit" and "snack" to my schedule. in the meantime, dave and i are practicing this rest thing by spending plenty of time with our favourite things! and i'm accepting tips from other workaholics on how to incorporate self-care into each day. * * * #sunny #🌞 #orangecat #catsofinstagram #cat #knitting #knittingaddict #tea #selfcare #selfcompassion #anxiety #concussion #balcony #workoholic #workaholics #worklifebalance #worklife #freelancelife
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"i regret doing yoga" said no one ever! #stretchyourself #yogamoment #yogaphotography
BREATHING EXERCISE TO REDUCE STRESS:
You can do this standing up, sitting in a chair that supports your back, or lying on a bed or a workout mat on the floor.
Make yourself as comfortable as you can. If you can, loosen any clothes that restrict your breathing.
If you're lying down, place your arms a little bit away from your sides, with the palms up. Let your legs be straight, or bend your knees so your feet are flat on the floor.
If you're sitting, place your arms on the chair arms.
If you’re sitting or standing, place both feet flat on the ground. Whatever position you're in, place your feet roughly hip-width apart.
Let your breath flow as deep down into your belly as is comfortable, without forcing it.
Try breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Breathe in gently and regularly. Some people find it helpful to count steadily from one to five. You may not be able to reach five at first.
Then, without pausing or holding your breath, let it flow out gently, counting from one to five again, if you find this helpful.
Keep doing this for 3-5 minutes. 
Your eyes can be open or closed, but just dont be trailed away by your thoughts.

#femininity #masculinity #masteryourself #masterpiece #art #empowerment #empoweringwomen #empoweringmen #king #queen #knowyourworth #loveyourself #selfcompassion #selfcare #selfconfidence #wellness #motivation #consciousness #minimalist #naturalista #authenticity #fortitude #inspiration #woke #wokeblacks #afrocentric #alchemy #healing #compassionateliving
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Breathing exercise to reduce stress: you can do this standing up, sitting in a chair that supports your back, or lying on a bed or a workout mat on the floor. make yourself as comfortable as you can. if you can, loosen any clothes that restrict your breathing. if you're lying down, place your arms a little bit away from your sides, with the palms up. let your legs be straight, or bend your knees so your feet are flat on the floor. if you're sitting, place your arms on the chair arms. if you’re sitting or standing, place both feet flat on the ground. whatever position you're in, place your feet roughly hip-width apart. let your breath flow as deep down into your belly as is comfortable, without forcing it. try breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth. breathe in gently and regularly. some people find it helpful to count steadily from one to five. you may not be able to reach five at first. then, without pausing or holding your breath, let it flow out gently, counting from one to five again, if you find this helpful. keep doing this for 3-5 minutes. your eyes can be open or closed, but just dont be trailed away by your thoughts. #femininity #masculinity #masteryourself #masterpiece #art #empowerment #empoweringwomen #empoweringmen #king #queen #knowyourworth #loveyourself #selfcompassion #selfcare #selfconfidence #wellness #motivation #consciousness #minimalist #naturalista #authenticity #fortitude #inspiration #woke #wokeblacks #afrocentric #alchemy #healing #compassionateliving
Because a trip to shoot at the infamous pink wall with @lornajanecanada just wouldn't be complete without 🍦🙊 What's your favourite guilt-free pleasure? 👇👇👇
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Because a trip to shoot at the infamous pink wall with @lornajanecanada just wouldn't be complete without 🍦🙊 what's your favourite guilt-free pleasure? 👇👇👇
When you start to notice self criticism, judgement and feelings of self loathing or inadequacy; Pause for a moment and ask yourself: What would you say to a friend?...
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#selfcompassion #selflove #beyourownbestie #beyourownbestfriend #selflove #bekindtoyourself #youareenough #youaregrowing #youareperfect #love #loveyourself #psychotherapy #therapy #chicago #roses #flowers #peonies #pink #askyourself #checkinwithyourself #mindyourmind #thinkgoodfeelgood #psychology #moveinward
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When you start to notice self criticism, judgement and feelings of self loathing or inadequacy; pause for a moment and ask yourself: what would you say to a friend?... . . . #selfcompassion #selflove #beyourownbestie #beyourownbestfriend #selflove #bekindtoyourself #youareenough #youaregrowing #youareperfect #love #loveyourself #psychotherapy #therapy #chicago #roses #flowers #peonies #pink #askyourself #checkinwithyourself #mindyourmind #thinkgoodfeelgood #psychology #moveinward