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I found myself amongst a group of smart, thoughtful and evolved people last week and the topic of self-compassion came up. For many in the group the idea of self-compassion was remote, self-indulgent or even self-pitying. It struck me that in our ‘pick-yourself-up by the bootstraps’ culture; “wallowing in one’s pain,” as one person put it, seems weak and even unsafe not to mention terribly misunderstood.

After all, we’ve been taught that self-criticism is a powerful motivator – use the stick and keep moving forward, right? 
It was good for me to be reminded that practicing self-compassion represents a significant sea change in our current cultural. 
Tara Brach talks about ‘self-hatred’ in this quote, which sounds like such a harsh phrase to me. 
Yet being with this group, and also reflecting on how I treated myself before I began practicing self-compassion, I understand it isn’t over-blown. 
It’s grown out of a cultural that views vulnerability as weakness and it can have us responding to our lives with self-judgement and isolation rather than clarity and balance.

In practicing self-compassion, I’ve come to know an intrinsic self-worth that is highly stable, along with a powerful motivating force for growth and change. Self-compassion creates the safety my brain needs. With self-compassion my motivation for change is because I care about myself, not because I think I am worthless or unacceptable as I am. 
Self-compassion involves being kind to ourselves when life goes awry or we notice something about ourselves we don’t like, rather than being cold or harshly self-critical. It recognises that the human condition is imperfect, so that we feel connected to others when we fail or suffer rather than feeling separate or isolated.

May we all grow a little more curious about self-compassion this week and turn to ourselves, even for a brief moment, with more kindness, gentleness and care.  Can you relate? With great warmth Heather

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I found myself amongst a group of smart, thoughtful and evolved people last week and the topic of self-compassion came up. for many in the group the idea of self-compassion was remote, self-indulgent or even self-pitying. it struck me that in our ‘pick-yourself-up by the bootstraps’ culture; “wallowing in one’s pain,” as one person put it, seems weak and even unsafe not to mention terribly misunderstood. after all, we’ve been taught that self-criticism is a powerful motivator – use the stick and keep moving forward, right? it was good for me to be reminded that practicing self-compassion represents a significant sea change in our current cultural. tara brach talks about ‘self-hatred’ in this quote, which sounds like such a harsh phrase to me. yet being with this group, and also reflecting on how i treated myself before i began practicing self-compassion, i understand it isn’t over-blown. it’s grown out of a cultural that views vulnerability as weakness and it can have us responding to our lives with self-judgement and isolation rather than clarity and balance. in practicing self-compassion, i’ve come to know an intrinsic self-worth that is highly stable, along with a powerful motivating force for growth and change. self-compassion creates the safety my brain needs. with self-compassion my motivation for change is because i care about myself, not because i think i am worthless or unacceptable as i am. self-compassion involves being kind to ourselves when life goes awry or we notice something about ourselves we don’t like, rather than being cold or harshly self-critical. it recognises that the human condition is imperfect, so that we feel connected to others when we fail or suffer rather than feeling separate or isolated. may we all grow a little more curious about self-compassion this week and turn to ourselves, even for a brief moment, with more kindness, gentleness and care. can you relate? with great warmth heather join our global authentic woman community at authenticwoman.co find out more about the launch of the online compassionate self-awareness program to know yourself, care for yourself and be yourself at authenticwoman.co
I love the adornment of this third eye! Wowie! I'm teaching tarot class this weekend, and tarot is all about opening & expanding your intuitive, clairvoyant energy. .
If you're psychic center is already wide open and sometime you get messages that aren't yours, or you get overwhelmed, the energy of the tarot can be grounding and soothing.
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If you're wanting to amplify your guidance and connection to Spirit, than tarot is a great tool to do that. There's a magic that happens when you show up for tarot.
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One student discribed her deck as, 'it feels sparkly!
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I love the adornment of this third eye! wowie! i'm teaching tarot class this weekend, and tarot is all about opening & expanding your intuitive, clairvoyant energy. . if you're psychic center is already wide open and sometime you get messages that aren't yours, or you get overwhelmed, the energy of the tarot can be grounding and soothing. . if you're wanting to amplify your guidance and connection to spirit, than tarot is a great tool to do that. there's a magic that happens when you show up for tarot. . one student discribed her deck as, 'it feels sparkly!" indeed it does. . i hope your day is sparkly too! shine on! . . . . . . . . . 📸 @chelseasflowercrowns #recharge #taketime #selfcare #selfcompassion #awakened #lightworker #pranayama #loveandlight #pinealgland #wildwoman #spiritjunkie #meditations #spirituality #tarotdeck #ritual #higherself #tarotreadersofinstagram #soulscripts #divinefeminine #energyhealer #knowthyself #spiritualawakening #earthenergy #higherself #higherconsciousness #mindfulness #highvibration #intuitive #cincinnatiohio #crystalhealer
Use your breath to direct attention into the center of whatever feeling is arising. Send awareness inside your emotions and saturate them with light. Surround whatever appears with your presence, as a parent would cradle their shivering little one with a warm blanket.

For you are the parent to the orphans of the somatic world, as they emerge out of the unseen requesting safe passage in the vastness, one of love’s children on the journey of sacred return. Though their appearance can be disturbing and intense, they come not to harm … but to know themselves in form, as consciousness seeds matter with its qualities.

As you practice intimacy with the display of the embodied world, naturally attune to the breath as it passes in and out of your lungs. Take a moment to behold the miracle this truly is, to be given even one more breath on this new day. The implications of this alone are enough to take you to the ground and cut through the trance that something is missing.

As holy as the breath is, there is another substance passing through you. It is flowing in and out of the center of your heart, is subtle, and is apprehended only through one of your nonordinary senses. It is untamed, creative, and out of control, and keeps the stars from falling out of the sky. It is the substance pure love.

Oxygenate your entire being with this sacred material, and allow it to wash and nourish you. Breathe it into your cells and allow it to recycle in the four directions. Be a vessel in which this substance can pour into a world that has forgotten.

Please do whatever you can to help others, and never forget that even one moment of empathic, attuned presence can change someone’s life forever. Listen to them. Really, listen to them. Slow way way down and look into their eyes. Hold them. Share your calm, regulated nervous system with them. Dare to allow them to matter. Care for them and how they are making meaning of their experience.

Never forget that they are an erupting miracle of presence. Don’t forget. For we never know if we will have another chance.
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Use your breath to direct attention into the center of whatever feeling is arising. send awareness inside your emotions and saturate them with light. surround whatever appears with your presence, as a parent would cradle their shivering little one with a warm blanket. for you are the parent to the orphans of the somatic world, as they emerge out of the unseen requesting safe passage in the vastness, one of love’s children on the journey of sacred return. though their appearance can be disturbing and intense, they come not to harm … but to know themselves in form, as consciousness seeds matter with its qualities. as you practice intimacy with the display of the embodied world, naturally attune to the breath as it passes in and out of your lungs. take a moment to behold the miracle this truly is, to be given even one more breath on this new day. the implications of this alone are enough to take you to the ground and cut through the trance that something is missing. as holy as the breath is, there is another substance passing through you. it is flowing in and out of the center of your heart, is subtle, and is apprehended only through one of your nonordinary senses. it is untamed, creative, and out of control, and keeps the stars from falling out of the sky. it is the substance pure love. oxygenate your entire being with this sacred material, and allow it to wash and nourish you. breathe it into your cells and allow it to recycle in the four directions. be a vessel in which this substance can pour into a world that has forgotten. please do whatever you can to help others, and never forget that even one moment of empathic, attuned presence can change someone’s life forever. listen to them. really, listen to them. slow way way down and look into their eyes. hold them. share your calm, regulated nervous system with them. dare to allow them to matter. care for them and how they are making meaning of their experience. never forget that they are an erupting miracle of presence. don’t forget. for we never know if we will have another chance.
Self-care doesn't need to be extravagant or fluffy. The simple stuff is valid too. Taking our meds, chilling with netflix, eating a bit of fruit, letting ourselves (ugly) cry - they all totally count. 📷 @sophieforstr
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Self-care doesn't need to be extravagant or fluffy. the simple stuff is valid too. taking our meds, chilling with netflix, eating a bit of fruit, letting ourselves (ugly) cry - they all totally count. 📷 @sophieforstr
Happppy Friday my sweets! As you know, i'm not a morning person 😏 but I've been able to add joyfulness 🤗into my morning routine.  One of my favorite things to do (that actually gets me out of bed) is make my own coffee- grind the organic beans, place it in the fresh press and blend it until it’s frothy. Overnight Oats are a great way to make room for morning activities. With the new @Quaker Overnight Oats it's even less work.  The single serve cup features a blend  of oats, quinoa, flaxseed, fruit and nuts so all you have to do is add your dairy or non-dairy milk of choice, and let it cold steep overnight.  Easy Peasy and more time for morning activities👩‍🌾🙋👌. xx, LiLi  #sponsored #QuakerOvernightOats #SteepSleepEat photo: @miachelphotography for mindbodygreen
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Happppy friday my sweets! as you know, i'm not a morning person 😏 but i've been able to add joyfulness 🤗into my morning routine.  one of my favorite things to do (that actually gets me out of bed) is make my own coffee- grind the organic beans, place it in the fresh press and blend it until it’s frothy. overnight oats are a great way to make room for morning activities. with the new @quaker overnight oats it's even less work.  the single serve cup features a blend  of oats, quinoa, flaxseed, fruit and nuts so all you have to do is add your dairy or non-dairy milk of choice, and let it cold steep overnight.  easy peasy and more time for morning activities👩‍🌾🙋👌. xx, lili  #sponsored #quakerovernightoats #steepsleepeat photo: @miachelphotography for mindbodygreen
For many, self-care and intuitive eating/movement are not as simple as
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For many, self-care and intuitive eating/movement are not as simple as "i feel like eating this thing or doing this thing, so i'm going to." intuitive eating is, at its core, a social justice issue. so many people are forced to navigate the precarious process of making peace with food and their bodies with a baseline of food insecurity, limited access to a variety of foods, a lack of safe spaces to practice joyful movement, inadequate medical care, or severe constraints on time (due to working long hours and/or multiple jobs). the conversation around health has to shift away from the contemporary meaningless garbage about size and weight; rather, we need to be talking about the overwhelmingly predominant determinant of health outcomes: socioeconomic status. if we aren't talking about equality and access, we're contributing to the problem. thanks to @chr1styharrison for the always amazing and insightful podcast, and @carmen.cool for her inspiring work! #equality #access #health #foodinsecurity #socioeconomic #status #socialjustice #oppression #empowerment #patriarchy #selfcare #selfcompassion #intuitiveeating #intuitivemovement #healthateverysize #haes #fatactivism #fatacceptance #bodypeace #foodfreedom #weightneutral #community #recovery #eatingdisorderrecovery #eatingdisorderawareness #representation #diversity
We made it! Day 1 of our Bali Retreat, with 22 lovely women and the most incredible, beautiful location at #DesaSeni, Canggu. Heading to the yoga shala for a spot of restorative #yoga with Sarah @bodypositiveyoga before brekky then diving into some #yama #niyama exploration with me! 💜💛💜💛 #Bali #Retreat #restore #connect #selfcompassion
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We made it! day 1 of our bali retreat, with 22 lovely women and the most incredible, beautiful location at #desaseni, canggu. heading to the yoga shala for a spot of restorative #yoga with sarah @bodypositiveyoga before brekky then diving into some #yama #niyama exploration with me! 💜💛💜💛 #bali #retreat #restore #connect #selfcompassion
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"godmorgon jag! förlåt om jag var taskig mot mig igår och sa elaka saker om både hur jag ser ut och hur jag är. förlåt kära jag, för att jag istället för att hjälpa mig och krama om mig länge, påstod att jag lika gärna kunde skita i allt. jag ber mig själv om en ny chans idag och börjar med att berätta att jag är så otroligt stolt över mig som tar mig igenom även de tuffaste dagar. jag står på min egen sida idag och tänker stötta mig själv. jag är alldeles underbar. idag också. ❤️ kram från jag!" #självmedkänsla #selfcompassion #självkärlek #medvetennärvaro
It's  ok to say no from time to time. Creating boundaries is not unkindness to others, it's kindness to yourself...😍 thank you Dianehallauthor.com for your
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It's ok to say no from time to time. creating boundaries is not unkindness to others, it's kindness to yourself...😍 thank you dianehallauthor.com for your "the little book of daily guidance" 😘#selfcompassion #healthylifestyle #journeyoflove #kindnessmatters #releaseyourinnersupermodel
I found this hidden amongst all the boutiques and stores yesterday. I could see adding a bench and some greenery for a beautiful, serene space 💛🍁🍂
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#girlsweekend #joy #wellbeing #sacredspace #nature #natureisnurture #naturelover #selfcare #selflove #selfcompassion #relaxation #treelover #autumn #autumncolors #leaves
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I found this hidden amongst all the boutiques and stores yesterday. i could see adding a bench and some greenery for a beautiful, serene space 💛🍁🍂 . . . #girlsweekend #joy #wellbeing #sacredspace #nature #natureisnurture #naturelover #selfcare #selflove #selfcompassion #relaxation #treelover #autumn #autumncolors #leaves
Over the years, food and I have had a love/hate relationship. Suffering from GI issues is no treat. Everyday is a challenge, but one I'm willing to take on. By changing my diet, I've changed my entire outlook on food. I appreciate and enjoy it. It does much more than fill me up, it nourishes me and is such an intricate part of my healing journey. #brittventures -
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Over the years, food and i have had a love/hate relationship. suffering from gi issues is no treat. everyday is a challenge, but one i'm willing to take on. by changing my diet, i've changed my entire outlook on food. i appreciate and enjoy it. it does much more than fill me up, it nourishes me and is such an intricate part of my healing journey. #brittventures - - - #foodjourney #foodie #foodpost #applepicking #honeycrispapple #indiana #selfcare #selfcompassion #travelforfood #traveler #foodtravels #adventurer #farmlife #foodlovers #exploretheworld #befearlessbefree #traveltheworld #appreciatefood #enjoylife❤
Every breath you take, every move you make... •
Practicing new thoughts that serve me, practicing believing in my dreams, practicing accepting doubt and fear as part of the journey and moving past it quickly enough to not get stuck, practicing getting into the zone and staying there more often and longer, practicing reflection of what does and does not move me forward. .
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#edrecovery #binge #bedrecovery #bingeeatingdisorder #bingerecovery #foodfreedom #bingefree #bingeeatingrecovery #overeating #weightlosstips #bingeeating #emotionaleating #halifax #novascotia #lifecoaching #lifecoach #weightlossjourney #healthyeating #stresseating #selfcare #selflove #weighlosssupport #selfcompassion  #mindfulness #healthandwellness #healthychoices #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment
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Every breath you take, every move you make... • practicing new thoughts that serve me, practicing believing in my dreams, practicing accepting doubt and fear as part of the journey and moving past it quickly enough to not get stuck, practicing getting into the zone and staying there more often and longer, practicing reflection of what does and does not move me forward. . . . #edrecovery #binge #bedrecovery #bingeeatingdisorder #bingerecovery #foodfreedom #bingefree #bingeeatingrecovery #overeating #weightlosstips #bingeeating #emotionaleating #halifax #novascotia #lifecoaching #lifecoach #weightlossjourney #healthyeating #stresseating #selfcare #selflove #weighlosssupport #selfcompassion  #mindfulness #healthandwellness #healthychoices #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment
Tell yourself: “I am enough.” Improve yourself if you want, but no need to “fix” yourself into a mold.

#RethinkQuiet #waltwhitman #andygoldsworthy #selfcompassion
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Tell yourself: “i am enough.” improve yourself if you want, but no need to “fix” yourself into a mold. #rethinkquiet #waltwhitman #andygoldsworthy #selfcompassion
23C this morning at the lake. September Sunrise bliss. Have a totally awesome Sunday🌅 Love ❤️
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23c this morning at the lake. september sunrise bliss. have a totally awesome sunday🌅 love ❤️
#repost @bravebodylove
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#repost @bravebodylove "here's the thing: body positivity isn't a trend it's a social justice movement. a movement which is needed because of c****y stuff like itsines! oh how very insulting to steal messages of freedom and use them to sell oppressive products. you can't sell body positivity and a 'bikini shred' program. hell no fitspo!!" www.untrapped.com.au via @untrapped #bravebodylove #haes #healthateverysize #nondiet #bodyposi #bodypositive #bopo #bodypositivity #losehatenotweight #effyourbeautystandards #ditchthediet #antidiet #edrecovery #riotsnotdiets #nourishnotpunish #recoverywarriors #prorecovery #balancednotclean #foodisfuel #mindfulness #mindfuleating #mindfulmovement #yoga #intuitiveeating #socialjustice #bodykindness #selfcare #selflove #selfcompassion
#repost @bravebodylove
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#repost @bravebodylove "here's the thing: body positivity isn't a trend it's a social justice movement. a movement which is needed because of c****y stuff like itsines! oh how very insulting to steal messages of freedom and use them to sell oppressive products. you can't sell body positivity and a 'bikini shred' program. hell no fitspo!!" www.untrapped.com.au via @untrapped #bravebodylove #haes #healthateverysize #nondiet #bodyposi #bodypositive #bopo #bodypositivity #losehatenotweight #effyourbeautystandards #ditchthediet #antidiet #edrecovery #riotsnotdiets #nourishnotpunish #recoverywarriors #prorecovery #balancednotclean #foodisfuel #mindfulness #mindfuleating #mindfulmovement #yoga #intuitiveeating #socialjustice #bodykindness #selfcare #selflove #selfcompassion
It's  ok to say no from time to time. Creating boundaries is not unkindness to others, it's kindness to yourself...😍 thank you Dianehallauthor.com for your
4 26 2 hours ago
It's ok to say no from time to time. creating boundaries is not unkindness to others, it's kindness to yourself...😍 thank you dianehallauthor.com for your "the little book of daily guidance" 😘#selfcompassion #healthylifestyle #journeyoflove #kindnessmatters #releaseyourinnersupermodel
If you're not resting your not really living. Take time out to sit back, rest and look at life and what's around you. There's nothing wrong with working hard but resting is a must for success. •
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#rest #restisneeded #inwardmatters #restfortheweary #dontburnout #emotionalhealth #boundries #selflove #selfcompassion #selfworth #selfcare #selfhelp #selfcaresunday #encouragement #brenebrown #emotionsmatter #feelingsareok #restlots #sabbath #beyoufully
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If you're not resting your not really living. take time out to sit back, rest and look at life and what's around you. there's nothing wrong with working hard but resting is a must for success. • • • • • • #rest #restisneeded #inwardmatters #restfortheweary #dontburnout #emotionalhealth #boundries #selflove #selfcompassion #selfworth #selfcare #selfhelp #selfcaresunday #encouragement #brenebrown #emotionsmatter #feelingsareok #restlots #sabbath #beyoufully