4 hours ago
Recently, i received some news that wasn't quite what i wanted to hear. to ensure that i didn't get caught up in overthinking and putting myself in a bad mood, i immediately referred to these three options:
1. accept it
2. change your perception of it
3. change the circumstances (if possible)
the bottom option wasn't viable, so i had to work with the first two. i accepted it and tried to view it positively. i told myself that it was an opportunity for something more significant. to make this belief stronger, ironically, i referred to a moment in the past where something didn't turn out the way i wanted it to, and it actually manifested as a blessing in disguise!
once the past is gone, it no longer exists in our physical reality. we can only reconstruct in our mind. if the process of rebuilding it doesn't empower you or add to your happiness, it's a waste of time. it's as simple as that.
nevertheless, human beings tend to remain focused on the problems of the past, instead of putting their energy towards a solution. this direct focus allows our problems to expand into our life and take over. we can either stay stuck in the past or move forward with our lives. where you invest your energy is critical to the life you end up living. you attract what you focus on. if you keep feeding your past, your future starves and ends up looking malnourished.
remember, your past cannot define you. whether you messed up in the past or you're suffering from it, that moment and that person no longer exists; so stop trying to bring it along to the future. growth is constant and we have to keep moving along with the flow of life. allow yourself to heal and become better than the person you were, so that you can create a better life for yourself.
our past is just a series of experiences that guide us to grow. without these events, we wouldn't be who we are today. if someone judges you for your past, the problem is not yours; it's theirs. they are the ones who are living in a place which no longer exists. the same goes for you. stop living in what no longer exists and be present, so you can enjoy today and start building a better tomorrow.