4 days ago
How to prepare for something you know is going to hurt:
1. dress yourself kindly. be comfortable, feel good. bring your sense of self to whatever is about to happen. you will be glad you did.
2. alert your friends. cast out a wide net and see who comes up— not everyone will be available, especially on short notice but i think you will surprise yourself with how much you are loved.
3. count your fingers. count your toes. count on the things that will not be changing, even when it feels like everything else is. you are still you. you are still you.
4. make your bed, clean your room. make it the kind of safe haven you will be glad to return to when all of this is over.
5. put a glass of water and a banana by your bed. plan ahead for dinner. you might not have an appetite but things will seem better after you eat.
6. put down the heavy thing. you are allowed. you are allowed to call out of work or stay home from school or cancel your plans. put down the heavy thing and rest.
7. give yourself one reminder— a picture or a book or your favorite tv show geared up on netflix, a drink you used to like when you were little or a phone call with a family member. give yourself a reminder that good things are still out there, waiting to give you joy again, when you make it out the other side.